"This is an era of infidelity."
People who vehemently support “arranged marriages” blame love for it. It does make you giggle, eh? Ok, what they mean by this, as I understand, is that, those who fall in love prior to marriage/s are more likely to be infidels. Fair enough. But then, what is infidelity? Rather, where is the germ of infidelity supposed to reside, in the mind or the body? If it were in the mind, marrying X when in love with Y amounts to infidelity. If it is the latter, need I even say?
You may think that life is all rosy for a couple in love who duly marry each other, with or without parents’ support/blessing, after n years of courtship, understanding and constant periods of muted struggle. Shockingly, it is not the case. Why? As easily as a man or a woman falls in love, they fall out of love.
Well, may be not so easily or quickly. It does seem like a slow death. Being married, in a way pressurizes them to keep the spark of love alive, somehow, I used to think. But the mere sight at the
entrance of Family Courts is dejecting.
Being “only in love” makes the closing ceremony spectacularly uncomplicated to snap, couples say after a comprehensive-break-up. How is being in love any different from being married, as far as the ones who are concerned?
For all the sermons on moral depravity, mental maturity and mummifying love’s eternal sanctity, I don’t find the problem resting with these - whether it is an arranged marriage or not, or there is an act of infidelity involved or not. The issue is stark. Gone are the days where we could claim, “once in love, always in love” (with the same person, i.e) proudly. We are falling out of love, surely and slowly. Like a friend once quipped, “I don’t feel loved the way I should be.” Who is to be blamed here? The one who doesn’t love or appears so, or the one who feels unloved or imagines so? All of us are the products of great expectations. So I say, these are difficult times.
Guard yourselves or RUN AMOK............!!!!!!!!!!
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